We all use social media and we love to intrude on other people’s life. With time, it is affecting our minds adversely and we all seem to concur ourselves a victim. This is an alarming situation that can ruin young’s minds for their entire life
Social media may be one of the largest reasons young people are acting more and more frequently as victims, explains an expert on the rise of victimhood around the country. Playing the victim (also known as victim playing, victim card, or self-victimization) is the fabrication or exaggeration of victimhood for a variety of reasons. Such as to justify abuse to others, to manipulate others, a coping strategy, attention seeking or diffusion of responsibility. A person who repeatedly does this is known as a professional victim.
This is the person who wants to be seen struggling with heavy shopping bags in the rain. When they know they can get their goods delivered to their door. This is somebody who almost seems to be pleased they have another new injury to show on their Facebook page.
They are the one who stays in a terrible relationship. So they can always tell you how unjustly they’ve been treated, once again. This is that person who always tells you what their bully of a boss has said or done this time. But who will never speak to their boss about it, leave the job or even look for a new one.
To enable it, people find the most relatable post on social media and post on their statuses like Facebook, insta, or WhatsApp. The main purpose of those posts is to trigger that particular person and make him or her feel like a bad person.
The assessment
I feel (mostly because of social media) that we as a generation, are growing soft and nobody wants to take personal responsibility for their condition anymore. Mental toughness and rational self-evaluation are traits which are almost non-existent. Everybody is self-diagnosing themselves with depression and anxiety. Sure, mental illnesses are real and they are a big social concern. But the social media fueled culture of mental health is doing more harm than good. Nobody makes an effort to deal with their problems anymore and passively succumb to their problems. Like everyone else, I have had my bad days and some were really tough to get out of.
But I am proud of myself for learning the fact that making someone else feel guilty for our problems, self-victimization, or emotional manipulation NEVER works. It only complicates things further. An upfront confrontation or a genuine conversation can solve more problems than you can imagine. Communication in powerful. Self-victimization is toxic. And it is polluting our culture. Every time something bad happens to us, especially in the case of breakups and rejections, we find solace in behaving like a victim and making the other person feel guilty for what they did instead of self-reflection and rational evaluation of the situation.
Trust me, most of the times, we are at fault. The other person might have made mistakes but that doesn’t discard our own share of mistakes. We must stop wasting our time on social media blaming our exes, lovers, the society, or our parents, or anyone else. Mental health awareness campaigns on social media were started with a good intention but many people have lost mental toughness and the trait of self-evaluation. Finding comfort in victim mentality, self-diagnosed mental illnesses, or pointing fingers is making us weak.
