The popular Bollywood couple Abhishek and Aishwarya Rai, married since 2007, has reportedly been living separately since June/July of this year. Now, reports suggest they are headed for a grey divorce. Senior lawyers share some insights into this trend.
Rumors have been circulating about the potential end of Bollywood couple Abhishek and Aishwarya Rai Bachchan’s 16-year marriage, sparking a conversation around the idea of “grey divorce.” If true, this would add them to a growing list of high-profile couples ending long-term marriages. But what is “grey divorce,” and why is it becoming more common?
Understanding Grey Divorce
“Grey divorce” is a relatively new term in the world, used to describe divorces among couples over 50 or those in long-term marriages. Traditionally, Indian society has seen marriage as a lifelong commitment, with couples often staying together due to social and family pressures. However, as social values change, older individuals are increasingly willing to step away from marriages that no longer bring them happiness or fulfillment.
Ashi Tomar, a senior psychologist, explains, “Changing cultural norms and the desire for personal happiness are driving more older adults in India to consider divorce. People are increasingly seeking independence and self-fulfillment, even later in life.”
Factors contributing to grey divorce include emotional disconnection, “empty nest syndrome,” and growing financial independence, especially among women. Traditionally, financial dependence and societal pressure kept many women in unsatisfactory marriages. However, with more women now financially secure and socially empowered, they feel freer to make independent choices.
The trend of grey divorce is not limited to ordinary individuals; even celebrities, who often face the pressures of public scrutiny, are choosing to end their marriages. High-profile divorces, like those of Saif Ali Khan and Amrita Singh, Kamal Haasan and Sarika Thakur, and Om Puri and Nandita Puri, reflect the challenges faced by many older couples who opt for separation.
Popular Grey Divorce Examples
Bill and Melinda Gates: One of the most high-profile grey divorces in recent years, Bill and Melinda Gates ended their 27-year marriage in 2021.
Al and Tipper Gore: The former US Vice President and his wife divorced in 2010 after 40 years of marriage.
Captain and Tennille: The iconic music duo divorced in 2014 after 39 years of marriage.
Hugh Jackman and Deborra-Lee Furness: While not officially divorced, this couple announced their separation in 2023 after 27 years of marriage.
Danny DeVito and Rhea Perlman: This Hollywood couple divorced in 2017 after 30 years of marriage.
For older adults, rebuilding life after a long-term relationship can be challenging and liberating. Many find new purpose by reconnecting with friends, engaging in community activities, and focusing on financial independence. Embracing autonomy and self-discovery, rather than rushing into new relationships, can create a fulfilling and emotionally strong foundation.
